Before babies, these were awesome times:
Winding down from your day, sharing a meal,
and relaxing in silence on the couch.
(outside of the Netflix binge of the week)
Maybe enjoying a beer or glass of wine and
just putting your feet up to relax, finally!
Then enter baby.
The beautiful, apple of your eye who desires nothing more than being
fed, cuddled, cleaned, and being kept warm and safe.
Until the evening hits.
"WHOSE CHILD IS THIS!?"
"WHY IS HE DOING THIS TO ME?"
"WHAT AM I DOING WRONG?"
"WHY DOES MY BABY ONLY CRY IN THE EVENING?"
"WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE IT BETTER?"
"I'M GOING TO LOSE IT!"
All things we've heard many times from parents about the evenings in their house with newborns. Whether you have other children or not, the evenings come as quite a surprise as to your infant's behavior and how to handle it all.
There's lots of theories as to why babies tend to cry more in the evening:
It could be colic.
It could be over stimulation or being overly tired.
It could be wanting more food and desiring cluster feedings.
It could be gas discomforts.
It could just simply be that they'd like cuddles and attention;
with dinner being made and attention being spread around to more people, they just aren't getting enough.
Whatever it is for your baby, it can be so frustrating!
We all know babies cry, but when you feel as though you have 20 things needing to be done, other children to care for, and a partner who may just like a hug and kiss and cuddle of their own...
It can wear you down with a quickness.
So, What can you do?
Contact your baby's care provider to see what ideas they have or
if they feel it may be a bigger issue.
Hire a postpartum doula to come help out with baby and
family/dinner care during the evenings.
Wear your baby.
Get into a routine.
Take turns (if you have a partner, take turns cuddling baby,
so you each can get some breathing time)
Check into chiropractic care for your babe.
Try to remember this really is JUST A PHASE and it will pass.
(I promise, even though it may seem impossible at the time)
These EVENINGS can seem endless,
but YOU'VE GOT THIS
and we are here to help!!!
It is 3am.
You're wide awake.
It happened again.
What in the world is going on?
Like for real...???!!!
Why is your ex boyfriend in your dreams?
Why in the world are they so freaking real!?
Do you still have feelings for him?
What is going on!?
You're not alone.
Many people report having the wildest, most vivid dreams while pregnant.
Having very vivid dreams during pregnancy is completely normal.
Many people report even having orgasms...
while pregnant and sleeping.
(Seems like a pretty awesome perk, eh?)
For some reason it isn't talked about much though.
Most people fear they have some deep rooted feelings
in why they are having these dreams
fear the backlash of opening up about talking about
the sexual or horrific things they've dreamed.
Only after bringing it up to your doula or
in a mommy board do most people realize
so many people have this same thing happening!
It is normal.
PhD candidates in Montreal have done research on why exactly it happens and it still remains a mystery.
Their thoughts are that because of the huge changes needed in your mind in body, that these dreams are somehow a way of coping with that reality.
The research also didn't show that they had more sexual dreams,
but the intensity could be greater because of fetal movement and possible uterine contractions (which is the same as orgasm);
It could be a cause in the intensity of those dreams.
So, next time you wake up in the middle of the night, contemplating your past relationship and why int he world you'd be losing all your teeth,
just know it is normal.
(And take those perks, lol)
As always if you are experiencing anything that you feel uncomfortable about or feel is outside of the realm of normal, contact your care provider!
Jessica Anne Dill
Mom of 5, Wife, Doula trainer, Professional Birth and Postpartum Doula, Placenta Specialist, and best friend of coffee and long naps!