ONE out of THREE.
That's just about the cesarean rate in Indiana
and the United States as a whole right now.
Why would birth doulas not be supporting these new parents as well?
For a long time, doula support was seen as a home birth "thing" or a hippy thing.
That truth can be seen in the questions and comments we receive about the fact that we provide support through any and all cesareans:
"Wait... doulas go to cesareans?"
"You wouldn't just leave me?"
"I'm having a cesarean, what would you even do?"
"This isn't a doula birth."
"Cesareans are easy, why would anyone need support?"
Whether it is an emergency or elective;
We will always be by your side to support you in any capacity you'd like.
Because cesareans aren't "easy" and they are "doula births" and
WE DO SUPPORT ALL OF YOUR DECISIONS!
So, what does professional support
look like through a cesarean?
It looks just about the same as it does for a vaginal birth:
-We are available 24/7 for text/email/ phone support;
whether it is a question, fear,
or you just need someone to talk to about setting up the nursery.
-We are there to help you plan and work through all your options.
-We help you create a personalized birth plan.
-We are there to meet you at the hospital, so a familiar supportive face is there.
-We stay with you in triage to support you through any
procedures before the surgery.
-We will stay through your surgery and support you in the OR (if allowed in).
-We will explain what is happening in terms you can understand
and help to support you and your partner through whatever emotions and feelings you may be having during the procedure.
-We will stay with you, while your partner can go with the baby, if needed.
-We will be with you in recovery to help initiate breastfeeding (if you are wanting to) and offer comfort ideas for your recovery to come.
-We will ensure you are in comfortable in your postpartum room and know what to expect in the next few days to come.
-We will meet with you a couple days after birth to talk through your birth and go over any questions about newborn care and recovery you may have.
Support through cesareans is HUGE!
Many times these situations are unexpected and having someone there who knows this too is normal can be a game changer.
There's no question as to whether professional, nonjudgmental doula support through birth can be beneficial; cesareans are no exception.
You deserve to be supported in whatever way you chose to give birth and
through any of the ups and downs during labor.
Are doulas for all 3/3 births?
There are two words in the birth world that come with such a stigma,
it feels at times they could cause a war.
These two little words make some people's stomachs turn.
They make others angry.
They make others turn into educators and advocates.
They make some cringe and others scoff at the mere thought.
But to some they mean healing.
They mean a chance to meet their baby without fear and without anguish.
They mean freedom of choice and reclaiming their body.
There's times when making a choice to not feel the pains of labor is best:
When you know you will associate those pains with past abuse.
Or when those pains will remind you of a loss.
Or when PTSD of rape can come on without warning.
Or when the thoughts of labor pains bring on panic attacks.
Or when you just don't want to!
For too many, this is a reality they have to face when even deciding to get pregnant.
And sadly they then need to try to justify themselves
for their personal choices to others...
This stigma needs to go.
The JUDGMENT needs to go!
Your body is your own.
A planned cesarean can heal, in so many ways.
And who are we to judge what is right
and wrong for someone else's body, mind, and baby?
And no matter how or why you chose to birth the way you do,
we want it to be clear:
We hear your cries in the dark.
We stand with you.
And we support you.
Like being completely out of control during childbirth?
"Pain-free" childbirth isn't really a thing...
We've all heard those stories.
The ones about the women who practice hypnosis for birth.
As a doula and mom of 5 I've heard more than my fair share of stories about Hypnobabies and childbirth.
Some good, some bad, and some really bad.
But the thing was, I was curious.
What was all this really about?
I know there's special things to do to be able to support families who chose this method of childbirth, but what exactly were these "things"?
I was so curious in fact, that I sought out a specialized training just for doulas supporting Hypnobabies parents.
I was going to become a Hypno-Doula!
I was skeptical, but went into learning about it with an open mind.
Not like in a "coming to Jesus" way... BUT...
I can say I understand the bad, really bad stories,
and the amazing stories
better now and how/why things worked out how they did.
I understand how to specifically support these clients in a way that I never would have without this training.
Hypno-moms need different things and birth can look
completely different for them;
Knowing how to best support them is something I'm really excited to bring to the table!
Hypnobabies takes dedication.
It takes a positive attitude.
It takes daily practice.
It takes commitment.
And it really takes having a strong enough mind to block out and run from all the negative surrounding birth people can spew.
I still stand by my beliefs that not everything is for everyone,
especially through the birth process.
But those who use Hypnobabies and actually follow through the entire process, come out on the other side loving it;
And that's just something I can for sure get behind!
The positive language used and even just the knowledge obtained through the process is fantastic.
I'm so excited to announce this specialized completed training to best support
Hypno-parents as a Hypno-Doula!
You were there.
Every cry, giggle, scraped knee, and new boyfriend...
Now it the time has come:
Your beautiful little girl is expecting her own little girl!
How in the world did time fly so quickly?
Becoming a grandparent is special.
Something unlike anything else you'll ever experience.
Those little "Grandma" or "Pawpaw" or "Mimi" words
will melt your heart like you never could imagine.
We know how excited you are
and that's why we are here for you too.
We heard your calls and
we have something made just for YOU!
We are so delighted to announce we will now be offering
a childbirth class tailor-made just for Grandparents.
A class that will help ease the transition
and break down some of the age barrier gaps.
Through interaction and engaging dialog we will walk through the most up to date information and help you get to know today's parenting and pregnancy recommendations.
We will talk through any fears and challenges you feel like you may be facing, go through social media dos and don't,
and help you brush up on those newborn skills so you can help your children care for their new children in the best possible way.
We know you've been a parent for a long time
and you are going to do an amazing job as a grandparent!
take the next step and make sure you are as prepared as you can be to help support your children and care for your new little grand baby!
Click the links below to learn more or to contact us today to get signed up!
There's lists all over Google explaining just what to ask during a
but we thought we'd offer a different, more modern perspective and add a few questions that aren't traditionally on that list (or at least the answers aren't what you'd think them to be.)
Because we want to make sure you are working with the most professional and caring doulas out there!
#1- Who were you trained by?
This question may come up on lots of lists, but the answers are the important part of this one.
Do you know anything about training organizations? Or is this just to see if they've even actually been trained?
There's so many organizations out there, do a little research and see what organization may align with what you are looking for the most because the doula will be under their scope of practice.
The doulas of Special Dilliveries, LLC have been trained through ProDoula because we know that professionalism and nonjudgmental support are of utmost importance to our clients! They offer the most compassionate and extensive training and certification available; And if we don't have the answers our trainers and the organization is available at any time to help and answer questions for us or you.
#2- What happens if I change my mind?
Many people hire doulas thinking they want a medication-free birth. What happens if you change your mind? Will your doula support your decisions and help bridge the options gaps? Have they been trained to support through an epidural? What about a cesarean?
We support you no matter your choices! We know this is your birth and your baby and you are always welcome to change your mind at any time about anything. We have been specially trained to support non-medicated births, medicated births, and cesareans.
#3- When do you go on call?
Traditionally doulas go on-call at 38 weeks and end at 42 weeks. What happens if you go into preterm labor? Are they going to be available to support you or is the contract and your money now worthless?
We know birth happens (very unexpectedly sometimes) and we would never leave you hanging. We go on call as soon as the contract is signed and will do everything in our power to attend your birth, no matter when it happens. If we can't, we will ensure a back-up is there for your support in our place.
#4- Do you have a reliable back-up?
Being on-call is tough. Who knows when someone will be sick or the car will break down or ... It is all possible, we are human and things happen. Your doula needs to have a back-up. And a back-up for their back-up. Especially if they are not in a partnered or agency situation.
Of course we do! We have a back-up and a back-up for our back-up. They have both been trained through the same organization and have very similar support styles, personalities, and will be given the information about your wishes prior to your birth. We know you are hiring us for peace of mind and worrying about not having that support during your birth is not something we take lightly. We welcome the option to meet with or Skype with our back-up; And they will be compensated from us if they have attended your birth in our place.
#5- Will you meet my doctor/midwife? Have you worked with them before?
Collaborative care is amazing! Wouldn't it be great to know you have a whole team of people working together to support you through your birth, rather than feeling like there are sides when the time comes? Traditionally doulas and doctors are seen on opposite ends of the spectrum, but it shouldn't be us vs them. You deserve to know you are supported from every angle and your doula should be willing to work collaboratively with your care team to help you work through decisions and situations that arise!
We would love them opportunity to meet and talk with your care provider! We truly enjoy working along side them to help you have the best birth and to help them raise patient satisfaction. If we haven't already worked with them we will definitely give their office manager a call and set up a lunch with them to be able to talk more about how we can work together for you. Good, respectful working relationships with care providers and facilities are of the utmost importance to us, so we can better serve you!
With the doula industry changing so rapidly,
we love being on the forefront of this
modern, excellence-in-care movement!
Asking these questions is one of the best ways to make sure your doula is offering the best services and most professional care available.
If you are looking for a doula in the Greater Lafayette, Indiana area:
We offer consultations for those who need a little more personal face-to-face time to get to know us and talk through any questions.
While this isn't always necessary
(we get hired often over the phone or even just through email),
it can help to make the decision easier for you.
CONTACT US today!
Guest Blog Written By: The Fabulous Heather Kemp of Gemini Birth Services
When I say wrapping a baby,
I don’t mean gift wrapping.
Rather, I mean wrapping them to you!
This can be done in the form of a baby carrier or a wrap. Whatever way you choose to transport your baby, here are some things I know about wrapping them:
Taking Care Of Business
I am a mother of 4 and when my youngest came along, as much as it would’ve been nice, the world did not come to a screeching halt. I still had a 2 year old as well as older kids in school, dance, etc. Luckily, I had discovered stretchy baby wraps, like the Moby and Boba (formerly Sleepywrap). I could wrap baby to me and have 2 free hands for doing dishes, making dinner, and reading books to an antsy toddler.
Baby It’s Cold Outside
I also happen to have all winter babies. Living in the Midwest this means cold and germs. Wrapping my baby to me was a great alternative to the heavy little car seat others drag around. I would put the wrap on me at home before putting on my coat, wrap baby in a blanket and carry out to car. When we arrived at the store I could easily slip her into the wrap and bring my coat around both of us. My body heat was able to keep her warm. The added bonus was with her all wrapped up, random strangers wouldn’t try to touch her and cough on her! Win-Win!
Nursing With Ease
Another great advantage to wrapping a baby to you is for when you are breastfeeding. Your child is already right there against your chest. With some minor adjustments to make things more comfortable, you can nurse them right in the baby carrier and again still have your hands free.
Imagine shopping at Costco, while nursing, and not worrying about the stigma that is being put on woman nursing in public.
Everyone around you will just think baby is sleeping.
It is not just for outings though. Doing this at home allows you to nurse a teething, fussy baby and bake some cookies (or at least make the cookie dough…whether it makes it to the oven or not is up to you!)
Don’t Forget The Toddlers
Baby carriers aren’t just for babies though.
You can wrap your toddler too. Imagine going to the zoo and NOT having to bring that giant double stroller or wagon with you. You know your kids are going to complain about tired feet, or try to run ahead, but you don’t want to worry about it. Throw a baby carrier or 2 in your diaper bag. You can wrap one kid on your back and the other on the front, or your partner can wear one while you wear the other.
No more worries about losing your kid in the crowd!
Unless, of course, mommy brain takes over and you start frantically looking for your 5 year old because you forgot he was on your back. Not that it happened to me….
Gotta Find What Works
There are so very many options out there when it comes to wrapping and carrying children. You have to find what works for you and your lifestyle.
Stretchy wraps are good for newborn stage through about 20 pounds, but you cannot use these to carry on your back. They are stretchy which means baby can pull away from you and they is not safe on your back.
You can go more traditional and get a woven wrap, they are good from newborn until toddlerhood. I have even seen people wrap grown adults with these. They are strong, but can be tricky to get the hang of.
Another option is the soft structure buckle carriers. These can be sold with a newborn insert making them safe for newborn through toddler stage. These can usually be worn on your front or on your back and are more modern. They are also a common choice for men as they are easier to figure out.
My favorite option however is the mei tai. This is similar to the soft structured carrier, but instead of buckles it has long straps to tie. I like that my husband and I can quickly trade who is carrying and not have to adjust the buckles to our different sizes.
I would recommend checking Facebook to see
if there is a local baby wearers group to you.
(There is and it can be found HERE - Jessica)
These groups will sometimes have a lending library so you can borrow different carriers to see what you like. Ask around your friends and see what their preferences are and maybe you can try theirs out to see how it feels.
Wrapping babies can be a lot of fun and
a great way to bond with them so enjoy it!
Jessica Anne Dill
Mom of 5, Wife, Doula trainer, Professional Birth and Postpartum Doula, Placenta Specialist, and best friend of coffee and long naps!