"Are you going to take their place?"
"How do you help them support me?"
"I'm just worried I won't be needed if we have a doula..."
If we had a dollar for every time we've heard this or something similar from pregnant people looking at hiring a doula or their partners,
we'd be super rich!
Our answer is always very much the same and probably will never change:
We are there to support your partner and to help them support you.
"You are an absolute expert in your wife,
we are experts in birth,
we work together perfectly!"
In short, we are the people, who behind the scenes help make your partner look good.
Help you to have memories of them during your birth, amazing ones at that!
We are the gentle voice of:
Try pushing here.
She needs water.
Lets switch places.
Do you need to go to the bathroom?
Why don't you rest a bit.
You can step out and grab some coffee.
Do you need something to eat?
Here, maybe try this way.
Its okay, you're doing perfect!
You can go with baby, I will make sure she's taken care of.
And oodles more!
Birth can be unpredictable and long.
While our job is absolutely to help support you in every way possible,
your partner deserves some support too and we'll never be taking their place.
Jessica Anne Dill
Mom of 5, Wife, Doula trainer, Professional Birth and Postpartum Doula, Placenta Specialist, and best friend of coffee and long naps!