There's a viral post going around;
One with a birth photographer's conversation with a possible client.
You can see the ends of the conversation HERE.
Long story short, the conversation said something along the lines of:
if you have a cesarean, you aren't really a mother
and aren't really giving birth
and I won't take your photos.
Before you go storming off to Sanctimommy
(which is where it was originally published)
to give them a piece of your mind,
it is satire.
Simply put, it was a troll.
Someone trying to get a rise out of everyone.
The sad truth is, these people do exist.
Now, we are all for people having boundaries and drawing lines for businesses,
but the thing is, you don't have to be a jerk about it.
Just this week I read on a FB board that a doula clearly said they "release" their client if they elect to have a cesarean...
SAY WHAT NOW AGAIN!?
People still say "I'm so sorry" to me when I tell them I've had cesareans.
I'm not sorry.
My emotional turmoil from them was all rooted in the words others spoke to me;
not in how or why I truly had and wanted/ needed them.
Whatever you may call them.
They are BIRTH.
They deserve to be celebrated and supported and recognized just the same.
With over 30% of births being cesareans, you'd think we'd be at a place where we didn't need to have this conversation;
Where people didn't need to create satire screen shots to prove a point.
But they do,
to prove the point even louder!
The point is:
it is crap.
The way some people get treated because of, after, and/or before their cesareans
As if the major surgery isn't enough,
they get emotionally shamed as well.
take a good look at where we are and realize this has to end now.
We, as doulas and human beings, stand up today and say:
We support you, your choices, and your cesarean.
We won't leave you if you have one.
We won't leave you if you want one.
We will be there for you before, during, and after.
Whether you planned it or it is an emergency that has left you upset,
we will be there by your side.
Jessica Anne Dill