You plan for months, sometimes even years for just that one special day.
You look into each other's eyes and BAM...
all the sudden you have a spouse!
You plan for months, sometimes even years for just that one special day.
all the sudden you have a baby!
So, what does a wedding really have to do with babies and doulas?
Did you know the national average for the cost of a wedding is anywhere
from $25,576 - $35,329?
In Indiana, the average wedding cost is $19,129!
We want to challenge you for a moment to think on how much you spent on that one specific day:
your wedding day.
(Don't worry we won't judge.)
It may be quite a bit less than the national average,
but for most it was still probably quite a big sum.
Now, we want to challenge you to think on
how many postpartum hours that would get you after you have a baby.
(We'll go ahead and do the math for you with the Indiana average)
$19,129 / our largest package hourly rate
with the same amount of planning and money spent,
you could have almost 800 hours of support from a professional after you have your baby!
Lets break that down:
80 overnight shifts
100 8 hour day shifts
200 4 hour day shifts
over a month of live-in care
any combination of those
All for just the same cost of what you spent on that one single day.
We aren't saying you need to spend almost 20k on postpartum support
or that your amazing wedding wasn't worth the cost,
we just want you to think critically about planning for your time after your baby comes!
You're worth it.
Your mental health and recovery are worth it.
Your marriage is worth it.
And we'll be so happy to help out!
There's lists all over Google explaining just what to ask during a
but we thought we'd offer a different, more modern perspective and add a few questions that aren't traditionally on that list (or at least the answers aren't what you'd think them to be.)
Because we want to make sure you are working with the most professional and caring doulas out there!
#1- Who were you trained by?
This question may come up on lots of lists, but the answers are the important part of this one.
Do you know anything about training organizations? Or is this just to see if they've even actually been trained?
There's so many organizations out there, do a little research and see what organization may align with what you are looking for the most because the doula will be under their scope of practice.
The doulas of Special Dilliveries, LLC have been trained through ProDoula because we know that professionalism and nonjudgmental support are of utmost importance to our clients! They offer the most compassionate and extensive training and certification available; And if we don't have the answers our trainers and the organization is available at any time to help and answer questions for us or you.
#2- What happens if I change my mind?
Many people hire doulas thinking they want a medication-free birth. What happens if you change your mind? Will your doula support your decisions and help bridge the options gaps? Have they been trained to support through an epidural? What about a cesarean?
We support you no matter your choices! We know this is your birth and your baby and you are always welcome to change your mind at any time about anything. We have been specially trained to support non-medicated births, medicated births, and cesareans.
#3- When do you go on call?
Traditionally doulas go on-call at 38 weeks and end at 42 weeks. What happens if you go into preterm labor? Are they going to be available to support you or is the contract and your money now worthless?
We know birth happens (very unexpectedly sometimes) and we would never leave you hanging. We go on call as soon as the contract is signed and will do everything in our power to attend your birth, no matter when it happens. If we can't, we will ensure a back-up is there for your support in our place.
#4- Do you have a reliable back-up?
Being on-call is tough. Who knows when someone will be sick or the car will break down or ... It is all possible, we are human and things happen. Your doula needs to have a back-up. And a back-up for their back-up. Especially if they are not in a partnered or agency situation.
Of course we do! We have a back-up and a back-up for our back-up. They have both been trained through the same organization and have very similar support styles, personalities, and will be given the information about your wishes prior to your birth. We know you are hiring us for peace of mind and worrying about not having that support during your birth is not something we take lightly. We welcome the option to meet with or Skype with our back-up; And they will be compensated from us if they have attended your birth in our place.
#5- Will you meet my doctor/midwife? Have you worked with them before?
Collaborative care is amazing! Wouldn't it be great to know you have a whole team of people working together to support you through your birth, rather than feeling like there are sides when the time comes? Traditionally doulas and doctors are seen on opposite ends of the spectrum, but it shouldn't be us vs them. You deserve to know you are supported from every angle and your doula should be willing to work collaboratively with your care team to help you work through decisions and situations that arise!
We would love them opportunity to meet and talk with your care provider! We truly enjoy working along side them to help you have the best birth and to help them raise patient satisfaction. If we haven't already worked with them we will definitely give their office manager a call and set up a lunch with them to be able to talk more about how we can work together for you. Good, respectful working relationships with care providers and facilities are of the utmost importance to us, so we can better serve you!
With the doula industry changing so rapidly,
we love being on the forefront of this
modern, excellence-in-care movement!
Asking these questions is one of the best ways to make sure your doula is offering the best services and most professional care available.
If you are looking for a doula in the Greater Lafayette, Indiana area:
We offer consultations for those who need a little more personal face-to-face time to get to know us and talk through any questions.
While this isn't always necessary
(we get hired often over the phone or even just through email),
it can help to make the decision easier for you.
CONTACT US today!
There's a glimmer of change floating around...
Something that shouldn't need to be changed, but by golly it is happening, finally:
PROFESSIONALS, getting PAID
a living wage for work they do!
I know, it sounds silly when I say it like that, but up until recently this was a somewhat unheard of concept in a lot of professions, including doula work.
Getting paid in feelings.
Getting paid in word of mouth reviews.
Sounds great, right?... If that's the way bills were paid and families were fed.
You will have these feelings, anyhow.
(Actually better ones because you have something tangible to take home to your family)
If you do an outstanding job as a professional,
people will talk about you, anyhow.
(Actually better reviews because they really valued your service)
So, why should we be paying a PROFESSIONAL when someone who is a hobbyist will do it for free?
You know the old saying "You get what you pay for!"
It is TRUE! You do really get what you pay for. How much does someone who is getting nothing tangible from you invest into you, really?
How do you know they are even going to show up?!
Changing the future.
Imagine being so in love with a certain profession, that you decide to make it your career. You go to trainings, study, and put blood, sweat, and tears
into creating a legit business...
Now imagine this was your son or daughter: But the problem is there's always someone right beside them saying they'll do it for free, so they can't make ends meet!
This is for the future. For the photographers and the artists and musicians, who have such talent and deserve to make money for their hard work!
Free isn't ever really free.
As a doula, I'm on call 24 hours a day 7 days a week for months at a time; every single day! I leave my house at a moments notice and sometimes miss really important family events. The only justification I have for these actions is that it is "my job" and
I make a living wage doing what I do.
My family understands this and supports it.
But what if it was free?
I can't rationalize any of this, unless I am paid in proportion to my sacrifice and my family's sacrifice.
(Which is how any normal 9-5 job works as well)
I will not return home with no compensation for my family.
I will not make them pay (and neither should you) for whatever services I have provided.
Would you work for free?
With minimum wage arguments back and forth all over the place; it is clear we all deserve to be paid a wage for services we provide!
Why are professional small business owners any different?
What goes around, comes back around.
Ever help someone move; Then a year later have them ask again because they know you helped once already?
You provide services for low to no cost and it is then expected again in the future!
(And remember that word of mouth thing you were looking for? They are telling people you did it for free. What do you think others will be expecting?)
I have spent thousands of dollars and hours/days/weeks away from my family to do different training programs to be able to offer the BEST doula and placenta services.
I have insurance and rock solid legal contracts that ensure your safety and mine.
I value my time
AND MY CLIENTS VALUE MY TIME!
Because I'm a professional.
And NO PROFESSIONAL should have "FREE" in their vocabulary!
#lafayette #kokomo #bestdoula #indiana #notforfree #birthprofessional
#1- Plan WAY Ahead
Lots of people plan to get pregnant. If this is you, plan your ideal birth team now! Why wait until you get that positive test to start saving for paying for the baby and for your health? Wouldn't it be so much easier (and probably put your mind at ease a bit) if you set aside money a little at a time for when the pregnant time comes?
#2- Give Up that Coffee
I may have lost a few of you on this one, but hear me out: I don't mean give it up completely, I just mean buy good coffee at the grocery and make it at home! That $3 everyday Starbucks habit will add up really quickly, and guess what you can do with that money you save? Even if you go from every day to twice a week, you've saved $150 in 10 weeks!
#3- Ask About Payment Plans
Most Doulas will have the option to not pay full amounts up front. Even if it isn't advertised, monthly payment plans are a great way to get over that feeling of a large lump sum investment all at once. And most people see the idea of even $100 a month as much easier to swallow ($100 a month x 9 months of pregnancy = $900 doula paid for)
#4- Ask For a Doula as a Baby Shower Gift
As the attendee of many baby showers, I can attest to the fact that a lot of times I am totally stumped on what to give as a gift. I always want it to be thoughtful and helpful... If someone ever said "I would like donations to help pay for my doula." as a shower gift, I would probably lay down even more money than on some outfit I know is probably only getting worn once! People want to help you and give you and your baby gifts that they know you will like and really appreciate; What is better than a doula? (Some doulas even have programs set up, so you can give a link to the invited guest and they can make direct donations)
#5- See If Your Doula Needs Anything
Some doulas offer bartering for services: Do you do graphic design work? Does your spouse own a flooring company? Someone in the family a hunter and you have hundreds of pounds of meat in your deep freezer? There's a lot of options for "trading of goods and services" and it never hurts to ask if your doula offers this type of option.
Even if your doula doesn't offer bartering, think about any service you may be able to do for someone to make a little extra money (Lets not get x-rated here now though); Babysitting is a huge one!
#6- Apply for a Rewards Credit Card
Did you know that lots of credit cards these days offer awesome rewards and some have 0% interest for years? From free hotels, to free flights, gift cards, to even cash back; Credit cards these days kinda rock! Use your card to pay for the doula. Not only do you then have the option to pay it off slowly (or if you're like me pay it off as quickly as possible); You also are getting a little something extra from the transaction! And who doesn't love a little something extra?
#7- Sell Your Random Stuff
We all have that stuff sitting around our house that we know we will never use again: an extra bike, that random end table, the brand new pair of shoes that you haven't ever worn after buying them 2 years ago... Sell them! There are hundreds of "garage sale" pages all over the country on FB, Craigslist, local newspapers, or have a garage sale of your own. Not only will it make you some extra money, but who doesn't like feeling like they have less clutter?
Doulas are a luxury,
but if you value the services they provide
and the benefits of having one by your side
it is something you can make happen!
There are so many ways to make sure you have the doula you want and deserve; sometimes you just have to think outside the box.
Good, professional doulas are extremely valuable and should be seen and viewed as a part of your strong birth and postpartum team!
Jessica Anne Dill