You plan for months, sometimes even years for just that one special day.
You look into each other's eyes and BAM...
all the sudden you have a spouse!
You plan for months, sometimes even years for just that one special day.
all the sudden you have a baby!
So, what does a wedding really have to do with babies and doulas?
Did you know the national average for the cost of a wedding is anywhere
from $25,576 - $35,329?
In Indiana, the average wedding cost is $19,129!
We want to challenge you for a moment to think on how much you spent on that one specific day:
your wedding day.
(Don't worry we won't judge.)
It may be quite a bit less than the national average,
but for most it was still probably quite a big sum.
Now, we want to challenge you to think on
how many postpartum hours that would get you after you have a baby.
(We'll go ahead and do the math for you with the Indiana average)
$19,129 / our largest package hourly rate
with the same amount of planning and money spent,
you could have almost 800 hours of support from a professional after you have your baby!
Lets break that down:
80 overnight shifts
100 8 hour day shifts
200 4 hour day shifts
over a month of live-in care
any combination of those
All for just the same cost of what you spent on that one single day.
We aren't saying you need to spend almost 20k on postpartum support
or that your amazing wedding wasn't worth the cost,
we just want you to think critically about planning for your time after your baby comes!
You're worth it.
Your mental health and recovery are worth it.
Your marriage is worth it.
And we'll be so happy to help out!
There's a glimmer of change floating around...
Something that shouldn't need to be changed, but by golly it is happening, finally:
PROFESSIONALS, getting PAID
a living wage for work they do!
I know, it sounds silly when I say it like that, but up until recently this was a somewhat unheard of concept in a lot of professions, including doula work.
Getting paid in feelings.
Getting paid in word of mouth reviews.
Sounds great, right?... If that's the way bills were paid and families were fed.
You will have these feelings, anyhow.
(Actually better ones because you have something tangible to take home to your family)
If you do an outstanding job as a professional,
people will talk about you, anyhow.
(Actually better reviews because they really valued your service)
So, why should we be paying a PROFESSIONAL when someone who is a hobbyist will do it for free?
You know the old saying "You get what you pay for!"
It is TRUE! You do really get what you pay for. How much does someone who is getting nothing tangible from you invest into you, really?
How do you know they are even going to show up?!
Changing the future.
Imagine being so in love with a certain profession, that you decide to make it your career. You go to trainings, study, and put blood, sweat, and tears
into creating a legit business...
Now imagine this was your son or daughter: But the problem is there's always someone right beside them saying they'll do it for free, so they can't make ends meet!
This is for the future. For the photographers and the artists and musicians, who have such talent and deserve to make money for their hard work!
Free isn't ever really free.
As a doula, I'm on call 24 hours a day 7 days a week for months at a time; every single day! I leave my house at a moments notice and sometimes miss really important family events. The only justification I have for these actions is that it is "my job" and
I make a living wage doing what I do.
My family understands this and supports it.
But what if it was free?
I can't rationalize any of this, unless I am paid in proportion to my sacrifice and my family's sacrifice.
(Which is how any normal 9-5 job works as well)
I will not return home with no compensation for my family.
I will not make them pay (and neither should you) for whatever services I have provided.
Would you work for free?
With minimum wage arguments back and forth all over the place; it is clear we all deserve to be paid a wage for services we provide!
Why are professional small business owners any different?
What goes around, comes back around.
Ever help someone move; Then a year later have them ask again because they know you helped once already?
You provide services for low to no cost and it is then expected again in the future!
(And remember that word of mouth thing you were looking for? They are telling people you did it for free. What do you think others will be expecting?)
I have spent thousands of dollars and hours/days/weeks away from my family to do different training programs to be able to offer the BEST doula and placenta services.
I have insurance and rock solid legal contracts that ensure your safety and mine.
I value my time
AND MY CLIENTS VALUE MY TIME!
Because I'm a professional.
And NO PROFESSIONAL should have "FREE" in their vocabulary!
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#1- Plan WAY Ahead
Lots of people plan to get pregnant. If this is you, plan your ideal birth team now! Why wait until you get that positive test to start saving for paying for the baby and for your health? Wouldn't it be so much easier (and probably put your mind at ease a bit) if you set aside money a little at a time for when the pregnant time comes?
#2- Give Up that Coffee
I may have lost a few of you on this one, but hear me out: I don't mean give it up completely, I just mean buy good coffee at the grocery and make it at home! That $3 everyday Starbucks habit will add up really quickly, and guess what you can do with that money you save? Even if you go from every day to twice a week, you've saved $150 in 10 weeks!
#3- Ask About Payment Plans
Most Doulas will have the option to not pay full amounts up front. Even if it isn't advertised, monthly payment plans are a great way to get over that feeling of a large lump sum investment all at once. And most people see the idea of even $100 a month as much easier to swallow ($100 a month x 9 months of pregnancy = $900 doula paid for)
#4- Ask For a Doula as a Baby Shower Gift
As the attendee of many baby showers, I can attest to the fact that a lot of times I am totally stumped on what to give as a gift. I always want it to be thoughtful and helpful... If someone ever said "I would like donations to help pay for my doula." as a shower gift, I would probably lay down even more money than on some outfit I know is probably only getting worn once! People want to help you and give you and your baby gifts that they know you will like and really appreciate; What is better than a doula? (Some doulas even have programs set up, so you can give a link to the invited guest and they can make direct donations)
#5- See If Your Doula Needs Anything
Some doulas offer bartering for services: Do you do graphic design work? Does your spouse own a flooring company? Someone in the family a hunter and you have hundreds of pounds of meat in your deep freezer? There's a lot of options for "trading of goods and services" and it never hurts to ask if your doula offers this type of option.
Even if your doula doesn't offer bartering, think about any service you may be able to do for someone to make a little extra money (Lets not get x-rated here now though); Babysitting is a huge one!
#6- Apply for a Rewards Credit Card
Did you know that lots of credit cards these days offer awesome rewards and some have 0% interest for years? From free hotels, to free flights, gift cards, to even cash back; Credit cards these days kinda rock! Use your card to pay for the doula. Not only do you then have the option to pay it off slowly (or if you're like me pay it off as quickly as possible); You also are getting a little something extra from the transaction! And who doesn't love a little something extra?
#7- Sell Your Random Stuff
We all have that stuff sitting around our house that we know we will never use again: an extra bike, that random end table, the brand new pair of shoes that you haven't ever worn after buying them 2 years ago... Sell them! There are hundreds of "garage sale" pages all over the country on FB, Craigslist, local newspapers, or have a garage sale of your own. Not only will it make you some extra money, but who doesn't like feeling like they have less clutter?
Doulas are a luxury,
but if you value the services they provide
and the benefits of having one by your side
it is something you can make happen!
There are so many ways to make sure you have the doula you want and deserve; sometimes you just have to think outside the box.
Good, professional doulas are extremely valuable and should be seen and viewed as a part of your strong birth and postpartum team!
Jessica Anne Dill
Mom of 5, Wife, Doula trainer, Professional Birth and Postpartum Doula, Placenta Specialist, and best friend of coffee and long naps!